Whether it's part of foreplay or the main event, fingering can be super pleasurable for people with vulvas—as long as it's done well. Bad digital stimulation isn't just a huge turn-off; it can also be incredibly painful! That's why we spoke with some sex-positive women about how men can up their fingering game. Now, there's one big caveat here, which is that every woman and every vulva is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all method when it comes to fingering. Ultimately, the best fingering technique is asking your partner what feels good to them!

Fingering might be seen by some as a teenage sex act that has no place in adult sex lives, but they would be so very wrong. When done right, fingering is The Best. It's actually also really important for female pleasure and orgasm. And that's where fingering comes in.

But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: I just started dating women, and I'm not super experienced with it. Do you have a general primer on how to give a handjob to a woman?

Finger banging is an underrated art. When done right, it's incredibly hot. But whether you're new to sex or an unofficial vagina expert, fingering can be incredibly intimidating — everyone has different preferences, and hey, anatomy is complicated.