There are a lot of myths around sexual activity, one being that your first time having sex will hurt. Others may include oral stimulation, fingering or handjobs, or anal penetration in their definition. Your definition could also include stimulation or penetration with a sex toy. Regardless of the type of sexual activities you want to try, there are a few general tips or rules you can use to make your first sexual experience more comfortable. Masturbating can help you figure out what feels good during sex, and it can help you feel more familiar with your body.

Skip navigation! Story from Sex. As a result, having sex for the first time becomes a major milestone for many, and the memories of those often awkward, sometimes painful , occasionally funny moments tend to stay with us. For some, their first times were great. For others, it was bad.

They're also told that losing their virginity is defined by the first time a penis enters their vagina. But that's just the case. Britney Blair , PsyD, CBSM, AASECT, a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and founder of the sexual wellness app Lover , says that the reason there are so many myths around what sex feels like for a woman is because there's a lot of misinformation floating around. Blair tells Bustle. Of course, not everyone who has a vagina is a woman — and not all women have vaginas.

Subscriber Account active since. Losing your virginity is a big deal. It's not uncommon to have all sorts of romantic and exciting fantasies of how your first time will play out. But for most people, the reality is that their first time having sex was less than perfect.