But sometimes the desire to stand out manifests itself not so much in how we look, but what we do. And where better entertain that urge but the bedroom; a place designed for doing the one you love — and doing them well. So good on you for wanting to try some new things. Kinky sex refers to any kind of non-traditional erotic expression. It spans anywhere from light spanking to hardcore bondage and discipline.

Not that spanking is off limits or anything Kink includes a whole spectrum of behaviors beyond BDSM bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism though. It could involve anything from role playing, to blindfolds and feathery props, to having a threesome, or even doing some Broad City- style pegging. The biggest rule: If you and your partner are both interested in kinky sex , have an open conversation about what it is about kink that's a turn-on, and what you're comfortable trying, says Jenni Skyler, Ph.

This is to be expected. Even the most passionate relationships lose steam after years of having sex the same way. But these are all extreme versions of kink and BDSM. Fortunately, there are plenty of ways to crank up the kink and add a little—or a lot—of spice to your flat-lined sex life. We spoke with sexual health experts and surveyed roughly 1, about their sex life.

Remember that BDSM and other subdivisions of it are consensual acts that include a lot of preparation and instruction before they can be carried out properly for the enjoyment of all parties. One of my biggest kinks is piss play and humiliation. After being peed on, my Master forced me to sit in the pee for a long time before being allowed to shower off.