When it comes to making a person with a vulva orgasm, most folks need more than plain old penetration. Your penis is great and all , but only a quarter of vulva owners routinely come during vaginal intercourse —which means a lot of people need some form of clitoral stimulation in order to climax. Packed with nerve endings, the clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones. It has around 8, nerve endings , which is double the number in a penis, FYI.

The pleasure of oral sex is, for many people, one of the joys of being human. Might I remind you that the clitoris —the rosebud-like bump at the top of the vulva—is extraordinarily sensitive? Because not everything works the same way for every person with a vulva, my job can be rather difficult. So, to get some nitty gritty, down-to-earth assistance, I asked 15 people with vaginas for their best oral sex advice. Of course these are the tips, tricks, and preferences of 15 specific people. And by the way, when you're figuring out how to make oral sex awesome, be sure to take into account the desires not only of the receiver, but of the giver. Everyone involved deserves to have exactly the experience they want.

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To make the mysteries of the clit a little less intimidating, we asked a bunch of people with vaginas what they actually want sexual partners to do to their clitoris. I can make myself orgasm in seconds. Not feeling rushed makes a massive difference as well. Missionary position stimulation is the only way I can orgasm through sex. Too much prodding and poking is a massive turn off.